One of the guys at work was asking me why I became Muslim and I told
him it is the path I must follow. I don't know sometimes what I should
say, for me it is the path I must follow. What can I say to someone; I
don't want to push what I believe, so how should I answer someone if
asked, what is the right way to answer the questions? Sometimes I feel
I don't give the right answers ... Any clues as to what I can say?
Praise be to Allah
Firstly:
We ask Allah to accept your Islam and to make you steadfast in
adhering to the truth, and to guide you to that which He loves and
which pleases Him.
You should understand that you have followed the right path, and that
Islam is the religion of sound human nature (al-fitrah), the religion
of security and happiness. This is felt by everyone who belongs to
this great religion, but it is felt most by those who were drowning in
the darkness of ignorance, misguidance and disbelief. The one who
utters the shahadatayn (testimony of faith) feels something in his
heart that cannot be described to anyone; hence most of them are
overcome with tears of joy and happiness. Undoubtedly Allah has given
Islam a flavour and has given faith sweetness. This is what is stated
in the texts of our religion. This flavour and sweetness is tasted by
everyone who believes in Allah as his Lord, Islam as his religion, and
Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) as his Prophet.
Secondly:
The one whom Allah honours by bringing him into Islam may have reasons
for entering it that no one else has, and he may see aspects in it
that no one else sees. That is because of the greatness of this
religion, and the many aspects of good that there are in it, and the
fact that it is suitable for all classes of people, in all
environments and all cultures. Hence a person who enters this great
religion may mention reasons for doing so that no one else usually
mentions, but all of them are correct answers that speak of their
reality and the reality of Islam itself. You can read some of these
answers and benefit from them. We would like you to tell us your own
feelings and the reason why you entered this religion, because it
tells us about your situation and you are best able to express that.
There is no reason why we should not mention some of the reasons why
other people have become Muslim; there may be something in common
between you and them.
1.
A Bedouin was asked: Why did you become Muslim? He said: I have never
seen any word or deed that reason regards as good or sound human
nature (al-fitrah) indicates is right but Islam encourages it and
enjoins it and the Lord of Glory permits it. And I have never seen
anything that reason sees as bad and sound human nature indicates is
wrong, but Allah prohibits it and forbids it to His slaves.
2.
Robert Dixon, the head of the American Lawyers' Association, said: My
answer to the one who asks me why I became Muslim is: Islam is the
religion of monotheism, happiness, peace of mind and dignified living,
if I adhere to it and apply its teachings. It is the religion of
divine justice.
3.
Muhammad Asad, the Austrian politician and author, said: It was not
any particular teaching that attracted me, but the whole wonderful,
inexplicably coherent structure of moral teaching and practical life
programme.
4.
Sylvie Fawzy, a French lady who became Muslim, said: In Islam I found
a way of life that answers all questions and organizes man's life in a
way that benefits him and is suited to his nature, with regard to his
clothing, his food, his work, his marriage, his choices in life, and
his relationship with others. So it comes as no surprise that the one
who adheres to Islam feels content and secure, which in my opinion are
the most important factors in life.
5.
Umm 'Abd al-Malik, an American Muslim woman, said: I was amazed by the
way in which Islam raised the status of parents.
6.
Al-Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraheem (may Allah have mercy on him) said: An
Indian philosopher studied the history of all religions, and he
conducted an independent, fair-minded study. He studied Christianity
at length, because of the power, influence and prominence in the arts
and industry of the nations that claim to be Christian. Then he
examined Islam, and realized that it is the true religion, and he
became Muslim, and he wrote a book in English called "Why I became
Muslim," in which he described what he saw as the advantages of Islam
over other religions, one of the most important of which was: Islam is
the only religion that has a true, preserved history. The one who
follows it knows that this is the religion that was brought by
Muhammad ibn 'Abd-Allah, the unlettered Arab Prophet who is buried in
Madeenah al-Munawwarah in Arabia. He was astonished that Europe would
allow itself to follow a religion which raised the one after whom it
is named from the status of a human being and made him into a god,
when they know little of his history. The origin of these four Gospels
is not proven, and their dates and authors are not known for sure.
They only mention a few events of the history of Christ which happened
– as they say – within a few days, and they do not mention anything
much about this man's upbringing, education, childhood or youth. But
Allah decrees what He wills.
Fatawa al-Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraheem
7.
Yusuf Khattab – a convert from Judaism to Islam – said, when he was
asked why he had become Muslim: Because Islam is the religion of
monotheism. I read a great deal about it and finally I was convinced
that it is the way to Paradise.
There are many words, which may be summed up as saying that Islam is
the religion of sound human nature (al-fitrah), security, happiness,
wise rulings, and lofty morals. Whoever compares Islam with other,
distorted religions or human systems and laws will clearly see the
difference, and that there is no room for comparison at all.
8.
Mary Watson – an American woman with three academic degrees, one of
which is in theology – describes the moment when the light of faith
shone into her heart: I felt one night, as I was lying in my bed about
to fall asleep, that something strange had settled in my heart. I sat
up and said: O Lord, I believe in You alone, and I uttered the
shahadah (testimony of faith), and after that I felt peace and
tranquility envelop my entire body. Praise be to Allah for Islam; I
have never regretted that day which I consider to be the day of my
birth.
End quote.
We advise you to read the book Islam and the World:
The Rise and Decline of Muslims and its Effect on Mankind, by Shaykh
Abul Hasan al-Nadvi and Islam at the Crossroads and The Road to Makkah
by Prof. Muhammad Asad. All three books are available in English.
We also advise you to read true stories of people who have been guided
to the Straight Path and have submitted to Allah. These stories
explain how they were guided and what their first steps towards Islam
were. You will find them by following this link:
http://www.themwl.com /AlDaawa /default.aspx?ct=1& cid=7&l=AR
We ask Allah to make you steadfast in adhering to the truth and to
help you to acquire beneficial knowledge and to do righteous deeds.
And Allah is the Source of strength.
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Monday, December 9, 2013
For children, - Anger management tips and techniques according to Islamic teachings
Noble Qur'an says, "And if an evil suggestion comes to you from
Shaitan (Satan), then seek refuge in Allah, He is hearing and
knowing." (7:200) and Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) said: "If a man gets
angry and says, 'I seek refuge with Allah,' his anger will go away."
Therefore when someone is angry he should immediately say "A'udhu
billahi minash shaitanir rajim." Meaning, I seek shelter in Allah
(SWT) from the rejected Satan.
Imam Muhammad al-Baqir (as)said: "Verily, anger is a spark ignited by
the Shaitan (Satan) in the human heart. Indeed, when anyone of you
gets angry, his eyes become red, the veins of his neck become swollen
and Shaitan (Satan) enters them. Therefore, whosoever among you is
concerned about himself on account of it, he should lie down for a
while so that the filth of Shaitan (Satan) may be removed from him at
the time."
Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) has said, "Anger is from Shaitan, Shaitan
is from fire; fire is put out by water; so when one is angry he should
do Wudu (Ablution)."
Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) has said, when one of you becomes angry
while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and
good; otherwise he should lie down.
Be silent, don't speak. Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) has said, "If any
of you becomes angry, let him keep silent."
Divert attention away from the cause of anger and participate in
strenuous physical activity aiming at letting steam out and relaxing
muscles.
Try to pinpoint the exact reasons why you feel angry. Once you
identified the problem, consider coming up with different strategies
on how to remedy the situation.
Forgive and forget. Remember the rewards and virtues of patience,
mercy and forgiveness. Those who spend (freely), whether in
prosperity, or in adversity; who restrain anger, and pardon (all) men;
Allah loves those who do good. ( Noble Qur'an, 3:134)
Shaitan (Satan), then seek refuge in Allah, He is hearing and
knowing." (7:200) and Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) said: "If a man gets
angry and says, 'I seek refuge with Allah,' his anger will go away."
Therefore when someone is angry he should immediately say "A'udhu
billahi minash shaitanir rajim." Meaning, I seek shelter in Allah
(SWT) from the rejected Satan.
Imam Muhammad al-Baqir (as)said: "Verily, anger is a spark ignited by
the Shaitan (Satan) in the human heart. Indeed, when anyone of you
gets angry, his eyes become red, the veins of his neck become swollen
and Shaitan (Satan) enters them. Therefore, whosoever among you is
concerned about himself on account of it, he should lie down for a
while so that the filth of Shaitan (Satan) may be removed from him at
the time."
Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) has said, "Anger is from Shaitan, Shaitan
is from fire; fire is put out by water; so when one is angry he should
do Wudu (Ablution)."
Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) has said, when one of you becomes angry
while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and
good; otherwise he should lie down.
Be silent, don't speak. Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) has said, "If any
of you becomes angry, let him keep silent."
Divert attention away from the cause of anger and participate in
strenuous physical activity aiming at letting steam out and relaxing
muscles.
Try to pinpoint the exact reasons why you feel angry. Once you
identified the problem, consider coming up with different strategies
on how to remedy the situation.
Forgive and forget. Remember the rewards and virtues of patience,
mercy and forgiveness. Those who spend (freely), whether in
prosperity, or in adversity; who restrain anger, and pardon (all) men;
Allah loves those who do good. ( Noble Qur'an, 3:134)
Sunday, December 8, 2013
For children, - Learn to control your anger and bad temper as per the teachings of Islam: Do Fingers Grow Back?
A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement,
his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny
paint.
The man ran to his son, knocked him away and hammered the little boy's
hands into a pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he
rushed his son to the hospital.
Upon taking a closer look, the man saw that his little boy had etched
the words, " I LOVE YOU DAD" on the truck.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he
finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.
When the boy woke up from the surgery and saw his bandaged stubs, he
innocently said, "Daddy, I am sorry about your truck." Then he asked,
"But when are my fingers going to grow back?"
Think about the story the next time you see someone spilled milk at a
dinner table or hear a baby cry. Think first before you lose your
patience and become angry with someone you love. Trucks can be
repaired. Broken bones and hurt feelings often cannot.
Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and
the performance. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make
mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage, anger and bad
temper will haunt us forever. Pause and ponder. Think before you act.
Be patient.
Always remember: YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE ANGRY, BUT YOU HAVE NO RIGHT
TO BE CRUEL.
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restrain their anger and pardon men; And Allah loves those who do
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his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny
paint.
The man ran to his son, knocked him away and hammered the little boy's
hands into a pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he
rushed his son to the hospital.
Upon taking a closer look, the man saw that his little boy had etched
the words, " I LOVE YOU DAD" on the truck.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he
finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.
When the boy woke up from the surgery and saw his bandaged stubs, he
innocently said, "Daddy, I am sorry about your truck." Then he asked,
"But when are my fingers going to grow back?"
Think about the story the next time you see someone spilled milk at a
dinner table or hear a baby cry. Think first before you lose your
patience and become angry with someone you love. Trucks can be
repaired. Broken bones and hurt feelings often cannot.
Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and
the performance. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make
mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage, anger and bad
temper will haunt us forever. Pause and ponder. Think before you act.
Be patient.
Always remember: YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE ANGRY, BUT YOU HAVE NO RIGHT
TO BE CRUEL.
Those who spend (freely) whether in prosperity or in adversity; who
restrain their anger and pardon men; And Allah loves those who do
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Islamic Marriage Articles, - Al-Nikah
Mutual Agreement of Bride and Groom
Marriage (nikah) is a solemn and sacred social contract between bride
and groom. This contract is a strong covenant (mithaqun Ghalithun) as
expressed in Quran 4:21). The marriage contract in Islam is not a
sacrament. It is revocable.
Both parties mutually agree and enter into this contract. Both bride
and groom have the liberty to define various terms and conditions of
their liking and make them a part of this contract.
Mahr
The marriage-gift (Mahr) is a divine injunction. The giving of mahr to
the bride by the groom is an essential part of the contract.
'And give the women (on marriage) their mahr as a (nikah) free gift" (Quran 4:4)
Mahr is a token commitment of the husband's responsibility and may be
paid in cash, property or movable objects to the bride herself. The
amount of mahr is not legally specified, however, moderation according
to the existing social norm is recommended. The mahr may be paid
immediately to the bride at the time of marriage, or deferred to a
later date, or a combination of both. The deferred mahr however, falls
due in case of death or divorce.
One matrimonial party expresses 'ijab" willing consent to enter into
marriage and the other party expresses 'qubul" acceptance of the
responsibility in the assembly of marriage ceremony. The contract is
written and signed by the bride and the groom and their two respective
witnesses. This written marriage contract ("Aqd-Nikah) is then
announced publicly.
Sermon
The assembly of nikah is addressed with a marriage sermon
(khutba-tun-nikah) by the Muslim officiating the marriage. In marriage
societies, customarily, a state appointed Muslim judge (Qadi)
officiates the nikah ceremony and keeps the record of the marriage
contract. However any trust worthy practicing Muslim can conduct the
nikah ceremony, as Islam does not advocate priesthood. The documents
of marriage contract/certificate are filed with the mosque (masjid)
and local government for record.
Prophet Muhammad (S) made it his tradition (sunnah) to have marriage
sermon delivered in the assembly to solemnize the marriage. The sermon
invites the bride and the groom, as well as the participating guests
in the assembly to a life of piety, mutual love, kindness, and social
responsibility.
The Khutbah-tun-Nikah begins with the praise of Allah. His help and
guidance is sought. The Muslim confession of faith that 'There is none
worthy of worship except Allah and Muhammad is His servant and
messenger" is declared. The three Quranic verses (Quran 4:1, 3:102,
33:70-71) and one Prophetic saying (hadith) form the main text of the
marriage. This hadith is:
'By Allah! Among all of you I am the most God-fearing, and among you
all, I am the supermost to save myself from the wrath of Allah, yet my
state is that I observe prayer and sleep too. I observe fast and
suspend observing them; I marry woman also. And he who turns away from
my Sunnah has no relation with me". (Bukhari)
The Muslim officiating the marriage ceremony concludes the ceremony
with prayer (Dua) for bride, groom, their respective families, the
local Muslim community, and the Muslim community at large (Ummah)
Marriage (nikah) is considered as an act of worship (ibadah). It is
virtuous to conduct it in a Mosque keeping the ceremony simple. The
marriage ceremony is a social as well as a religious activity. Islam
advocates simplicity in ceremonies and celebrations.
Prophet Muhammad (S) considered simple weddings the best weddings:
'The best wedding is that upon which the least trouble and expense is
bestowed". (Mishkat)
Primary Requirements
1.Mutual agreement (Ijab-O-Qubul) by the bride and the groom
2.Two adult and sane witnesses
3.Mahr (marriage-gift) to be paid by the groom to the bride either
immediately (muajjal) or deferred (muakhkhar), or a combination of
both
Secondary Requirements
1.Legal guardian (wakeel) representing the bride
2.Written marriage contract ("Aqd-Nikah) signed by the bride and the
groom and witnesses by two adult and sane witnesses
3.Qadi (State appointed Muslim judge) or Ma'zoon (a responsible person
officiating the marriage ceremony)
4.Khutba-tun-Nikah to solemnize the marriage
The Marriage Banquet (Walima)
After the consummation of the marriage, the groom holds a banquet
called a walima. The relatives, neighbors, and friends are invited in
order to make them aware of the marriage. Both rich and poor of the
family and community are invited to the marriage feasts.
Prophet Muhammad (S) said:
'The worst of the feasts are those marriage feasts to which the rich
are invited and the poor are left out". (Mishkat)
It is recommended that Muslims attend marriage ceremonies and marriage
feasts upon invitation.
Prophet Muhammad (S) said:
"...and he who refuses to accept an invitation to a marriage feast,
verily disobeys Allah and His Prophet". (Ahmad & Abu Dawood) - - -- -
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Marriage (nikah) is a solemn and sacred social contract between bride
and groom. This contract is a strong covenant (mithaqun Ghalithun) as
expressed in Quran 4:21). The marriage contract in Islam is not a
sacrament. It is revocable.
Both parties mutually agree and enter into this contract. Both bride
and groom have the liberty to define various terms and conditions of
their liking and make them a part of this contract.
Mahr
The marriage-gift (Mahr) is a divine injunction. The giving of mahr to
the bride by the groom is an essential part of the contract.
'And give the women (on marriage) their mahr as a (nikah) free gift" (Quran 4:4)
Mahr is a token commitment of the husband's responsibility and may be
paid in cash, property or movable objects to the bride herself. The
amount of mahr is not legally specified, however, moderation according
to the existing social norm is recommended. The mahr may be paid
immediately to the bride at the time of marriage, or deferred to a
later date, or a combination of both. The deferred mahr however, falls
due in case of death or divorce.
One matrimonial party expresses 'ijab" willing consent to enter into
marriage and the other party expresses 'qubul" acceptance of the
responsibility in the assembly of marriage ceremony. The contract is
written and signed by the bride and the groom and their two respective
witnesses. This written marriage contract ("Aqd-Nikah) is then
announced publicly.
Sermon
The assembly of nikah is addressed with a marriage sermon
(khutba-tun-nikah) by the Muslim officiating the marriage. In marriage
societies, customarily, a state appointed Muslim judge (Qadi)
officiates the nikah ceremony and keeps the record of the marriage
contract. However any trust worthy practicing Muslim can conduct the
nikah ceremony, as Islam does not advocate priesthood. The documents
of marriage contract/certificate are filed with the mosque (masjid)
and local government for record.
Prophet Muhammad (S) made it his tradition (sunnah) to have marriage
sermon delivered in the assembly to solemnize the marriage. The sermon
invites the bride and the groom, as well as the participating guests
in the assembly to a life of piety, mutual love, kindness, and social
responsibility.
The Khutbah-tun-Nikah begins with the praise of Allah. His help and
guidance is sought. The Muslim confession of faith that 'There is none
worthy of worship except Allah and Muhammad is His servant and
messenger" is declared. The three Quranic verses (Quran 4:1, 3:102,
33:70-71) and one Prophetic saying (hadith) form the main text of the
marriage. This hadith is:
'By Allah! Among all of you I am the most God-fearing, and among you
all, I am the supermost to save myself from the wrath of Allah, yet my
state is that I observe prayer and sleep too. I observe fast and
suspend observing them; I marry woman also. And he who turns away from
my Sunnah has no relation with me". (Bukhari)
The Muslim officiating the marriage ceremony concludes the ceremony
with prayer (Dua) for bride, groom, their respective families, the
local Muslim community, and the Muslim community at large (Ummah)
Marriage (nikah) is considered as an act of worship (ibadah). It is
virtuous to conduct it in a Mosque keeping the ceremony simple. The
marriage ceremony is a social as well as a religious activity. Islam
advocates simplicity in ceremonies and celebrations.
Prophet Muhammad (S) considered simple weddings the best weddings:
'The best wedding is that upon which the least trouble and expense is
bestowed". (Mishkat)
Primary Requirements
1.Mutual agreement (Ijab-O-Qubul) by the bride and the groom
2.Two adult and sane witnesses
3.Mahr (marriage-gift) to be paid by the groom to the bride either
immediately (muajjal) or deferred (muakhkhar), or a combination of
both
Secondary Requirements
1.Legal guardian (wakeel) representing the bride
2.Written marriage contract ("Aqd-Nikah) signed by the bride and the
groom and witnesses by two adult and sane witnesses
3.Qadi (State appointed Muslim judge) or Ma'zoon (a responsible person
officiating the marriage ceremony)
4.Khutba-tun-Nikah to solemnize the marriage
The Marriage Banquet (Walima)
After the consummation of the marriage, the groom holds a banquet
called a walima. The relatives, neighbors, and friends are invited in
order to make them aware of the marriage. Both rich and poor of the
family and community are invited to the marriage feasts.
Prophet Muhammad (S) said:
'The worst of the feasts are those marriage feasts to which the rich
are invited and the poor are left out". (Mishkat)
It is recommended that Muslims attend marriage ceremonies and marriage
feasts upon invitation.
Prophet Muhammad (S) said:
"...and he who refuses to accept an invitation to a marriage feast,
verily disobeys Allah and His Prophet". (Ahmad & Abu Dawood) - - -- -
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Islamic Marriage Articles, - Islamic Wedding
Wedding of Fatimah (RadhiAllah Anha)
Fatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) is the youngest daughter of our beloved
Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam). Out of all the children, he was
the most beloved to him. He said,'The Queen of the ladies in Jannat is
Faatimah.' He also said,'Faatimah is part of my body. Whoever grieves
her, grieves me.'
When Faatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) reached the age of fifteen,
proposals for her marriage began to come from high and responsible
families. But the Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) remained
irresponsive.
Ali (Radhiallaahu Ánhu), who was 21 at the time, says: It occurred to
me that I should go and make a formal proposal, but then I
thought,'How could this be accomplished, for I possess nothing.'At
last, encouraged by the Prophet's kindness, I went to him and
expressed my intention to marry Faatima (Radhiyallaahu Anha). The
Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) was extremely pleased and
asked,'Áli! Do you possess anything to give her in Mahr?'I
replied,'Apart from a horse and an armour I possess nothing.'
The Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said, 'A soldier must, of
course, have his horse. Go and sell away your armour.'
So, Áli (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) went and sold his armour to Uthmaan
(Radhiallaahu Ánhu) for 480 Dirham and presented it to Rasulullah
(Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam). Bilaal (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) was ordered
by the Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) to bring some perfume and
a few other things and Anas (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) was sent to call Abu
Bakr, Uthmaan, Talhah, Zubayr with some companions from the Ansaar
(Radhiallaahu Ánhum).
When these men arrived and had taken their seats, the Prophet
(Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) recited the Khutbah (sermon) of Nikaah
and gave Faatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) in marriage to Áli (Radhiallaahu
Ánhu). He announced, 'Bear you all witness that I have given my
daughter Faatimah in marriage to Áli for 400 Mithqaal of silver and
Áli has accepted.' He then raised his head and made Duá saying, 'O
Allah, create love and harmony between these two. Bless them and
bestow upon them good children.' after the Nikaah, dates were
distributed.
When the time came for Faatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) to go to Áli's
(Radhiallaahu Ánhu) house, she was sent without any clamour, hue and
cry accompanied Umm Ayman (Radhiallaahu Ánhu). After the Éesha Salaat,
the Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) went to their house, took
permission and entered. He asked for a basin of water, put his blessed
hands into it and sprinkled it on both Áli (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) and
Faatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) and made Duá for them.
The sovereign of both worlds gave his beloved daughter a silver
bracelet, two Yemeni sheets, four mattresses, one blanket, one pillow,
one cup, one hand-grinding mill, one bedstead, a small water skin and
a leather pitcher.
In this simple fashion, the wedding of the daughter of the leader of
the worlds was solemnised. In following this Sunnah method, a wedding
becomes very simple and easy to fulfill.
SOME METHODS DERIVED FROM THE ABOVEMENTIONED MARRIAGE
1.The many customs as regards engagement are contrary to the Sunnah.
In fact, many are against the Shariáh and are regarded sins. A verbal
proposal and answer is sufficient.
2.To unnecessarily delay Nikah of both the boy and the girl after
having reached the age of marriage is incorrect.
3.There is nothing wrong in inviting one's close associates for the
occasion of Nikah. However, no special pains should be taken in
gathering the people from far off places.
4.It is appropriate that the bridegroom be a few years older than the bride.
5.If the father of the girl is an Áalim or pious and capable of
performing Nikah, then he should himself solemnise the marriage.
6.It is better to give the Mahr Faatimi and one should endeavour to do
so. But if one does not have the means then there is nothing wrong in
giving less.
7.It is totally un-Islamic for those, who do not possess the means, to
incur debts in order to have grandiose weddings.
8.It is fallacy to think that one's respect will be lost if one does
not hold an extravagant wedding and invite many people. What is our
respect compared to that of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam)?
9.The present day practice of the intermingling of sexes is an act of
sin and totally against Shariáh.
10.There is nothing such as engagement parties and Medhi parties in Islam.
11.Great care must be taken as regards to Salaat on occasions of
marriage by all - the bride, the bridegroom and all the participants.
12.It is un-Islamic to display the bride on stage.
13.The unnecessary expenses incurred by the bride's family in holding
a feast has no basis in Shariáh.
14.For the engaged couple to meet at a public gathering where the boy
holds the girl's hand and slips a ring on her finger is a violation of
the Qurãnic law of Hijaab.
15.It is un-Islamic for the engaged couple to meet each other and also
go out together.
16.Three things should be borne in mind when giving one's daughter
gifts and presents at the time of Nikah:
· Presents should be given within one's means (it is not permissible
to take loans, on interest for such presents);
· To give necessary items;
· A show should not be made of whatever is given.
17.It is Sunnat for the bridegroom's family to make Walimah.
Note:In Walimah, whatever is easily available should be fed to the
people and care should be taken that the is no extravagance, show and
that no debts are incurred in the process.
18. To delay Nikah after the engagement is un-Islamic.
SOME CUSTOMS
In aping Western methods sheepishly, Muslims have adopted many customs
which are un-Islamic and frowned upon.
Some examples are:
*.Displaying the bride on stage;
*.Inviting guests for the wedding from far off places;
*.Receiving guests in the hall;
*.The bride's people incurring unnecessary expenses by holding a feast
which has no basis in Shariáh. We should remember that Walimah is the
feast arranged by the bridegroom after the marriage is consummated.
*.It is contrary to Sunnah (and the practice of some non-Muslim tribes
in India) to wish, hope for or demand presents and gifts for the
bridegroom, from the bride's people. We should always remember that
our Nabi (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) did not give Áli (Radhiallaahu
Ánhu) anything except Duá.
Fatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) is the youngest daughter of our beloved
Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam). Out of all the children, he was
the most beloved to him. He said,'The Queen of the ladies in Jannat is
Faatimah.' He also said,'Faatimah is part of my body. Whoever grieves
her, grieves me.'
When Faatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) reached the age of fifteen,
proposals for her marriage began to come from high and responsible
families. But the Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) remained
irresponsive.
Ali (Radhiallaahu Ánhu), who was 21 at the time, says: It occurred to
me that I should go and make a formal proposal, but then I
thought,'How could this be accomplished, for I possess nothing.'At
last, encouraged by the Prophet's kindness, I went to him and
expressed my intention to marry Faatima (Radhiyallaahu Anha). The
Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) was extremely pleased and
asked,'Áli! Do you possess anything to give her in Mahr?'I
replied,'Apart from a horse and an armour I possess nothing.'
The Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said, 'A soldier must, of
course, have his horse. Go and sell away your armour.'
So, Áli (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) went and sold his armour to Uthmaan
(Radhiallaahu Ánhu) for 480 Dirham and presented it to Rasulullah
(Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam). Bilaal (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) was ordered
by the Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) to bring some perfume and
a few other things and Anas (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) was sent to call Abu
Bakr, Uthmaan, Talhah, Zubayr with some companions from the Ansaar
(Radhiallaahu Ánhum).
When these men arrived and had taken their seats, the Prophet
(Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) recited the Khutbah (sermon) of Nikaah
and gave Faatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) in marriage to Áli (Radhiallaahu
Ánhu). He announced, 'Bear you all witness that I have given my
daughter Faatimah in marriage to Áli for 400 Mithqaal of silver and
Áli has accepted.' He then raised his head and made Duá saying, 'O
Allah, create love and harmony between these two. Bless them and
bestow upon them good children.' after the Nikaah, dates were
distributed.
When the time came for Faatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) to go to Áli's
(Radhiallaahu Ánhu) house, she was sent without any clamour, hue and
cry accompanied Umm Ayman (Radhiallaahu Ánhu). After the Éesha Salaat,
the Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) went to their house, took
permission and entered. He asked for a basin of water, put his blessed
hands into it and sprinkled it on both Áli (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) and
Faatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) and made Duá for them.
The sovereign of both worlds gave his beloved daughter a silver
bracelet, two Yemeni sheets, four mattresses, one blanket, one pillow,
one cup, one hand-grinding mill, one bedstead, a small water skin and
a leather pitcher.
In this simple fashion, the wedding of the daughter of the leader of
the worlds was solemnised. In following this Sunnah method, a wedding
becomes very simple and easy to fulfill.
SOME METHODS DERIVED FROM THE ABOVEMENTIONED MARRIAGE
1.The many customs as regards engagement are contrary to the Sunnah.
In fact, many are against the Shariáh and are regarded sins. A verbal
proposal and answer is sufficient.
2.To unnecessarily delay Nikah of both the boy and the girl after
having reached the age of marriage is incorrect.
3.There is nothing wrong in inviting one's close associates for the
occasion of Nikah. However, no special pains should be taken in
gathering the people from far off places.
4.It is appropriate that the bridegroom be a few years older than the bride.
5.If the father of the girl is an Áalim or pious and capable of
performing Nikah, then he should himself solemnise the marriage.
6.It is better to give the Mahr Faatimi and one should endeavour to do
so. But if one does not have the means then there is nothing wrong in
giving less.
7.It is totally un-Islamic for those, who do not possess the means, to
incur debts in order to have grandiose weddings.
8.It is fallacy to think that one's respect will be lost if one does
not hold an extravagant wedding and invite many people. What is our
respect compared to that of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam)?
9.The present day practice of the intermingling of sexes is an act of
sin and totally against Shariáh.
10.There is nothing such as engagement parties and Medhi parties in Islam.
11.Great care must be taken as regards to Salaat on occasions of
marriage by all - the bride, the bridegroom and all the participants.
12.It is un-Islamic to display the bride on stage.
13.The unnecessary expenses incurred by the bride's family in holding
a feast has no basis in Shariáh.
14.For the engaged couple to meet at a public gathering where the boy
holds the girl's hand and slips a ring on her finger is a violation of
the Qurãnic law of Hijaab.
15.It is un-Islamic for the engaged couple to meet each other and also
go out together.
16.Three things should be borne in mind when giving one's daughter
gifts and presents at the time of Nikah:
· Presents should be given within one's means (it is not permissible
to take loans, on interest for such presents);
· To give necessary items;
· A show should not be made of whatever is given.
17.It is Sunnat for the bridegroom's family to make Walimah.
Note:In Walimah, whatever is easily available should be fed to the
people and care should be taken that the is no extravagance, show and
that no debts are incurred in the process.
18. To delay Nikah after the engagement is un-Islamic.
SOME CUSTOMS
In aping Western methods sheepishly, Muslims have adopted many customs
which are un-Islamic and frowned upon.
Some examples are:
*.Displaying the bride on stage;
*.Inviting guests for the wedding from far off places;
*.Receiving guests in the hall;
*.The bride's people incurring unnecessary expenses by holding a feast
which has no basis in Shariáh. We should remember that Walimah is the
feast arranged by the bridegroom after the marriage is consummated.
*.It is contrary to Sunnah (and the practice of some non-Muslim tribes
in India) to wish, hope for or demand presents and gifts for the
bridegroom, from the bride's people. We should always remember that
our Nabi (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) did not give Áli (Radhiallaahu
Ánhu) anything except Duá.
Islamic Marriage Articles, - Wedding in Islam
Spouses
Allah, most Gracious says about spouses in Quran:
Among His signs is [the fact] that He has created spouses for you
among yourselves so that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and
He has planted love and mercy between you; In that are signs for
people who reflect.
Qur'an [30 : 21]
and says:
... they are a garment for you and you are a garment to them ...
Qur'an [2 : 187]
Consider this in conjunction with the following verse:
... the best garment is the garment of God-consciousness ...
Qur'an [7 : 26]
It requires that a husband and wife should be as garments for each
other. Just as garments are for protection, comfort, show and
concealment for human beings, Allah expects husbands and wives to be
for one another.
And the believers, men and women, are protecting friends of one
another; they enjoin the right and forbid the wrong, and they
establish worship and they pay the poor-due, and they obey Allah and
His messenger; as for those, Allah will have mercy on them; Lo! Allah
is Mighty, Wise. Allah hath promised to believers - men and women -
gardens underwhich rivers flow, to dwell therein, and beautiful
mansions in gardens of everlasting bliss; but the greatest bliss is
the good pleasure of Allah: This is the supreme felicity.
Qur'an [9 : 71 - 72]
Whom to marry
Allah also gives us freedom and urges us to:
...Marry the women of your choice...
Qur'an [4 : 3]
Similarly, for the women:
"A girl came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and informed him that
her father had married her to her cousin against her wishes, whereupon
the Prophet allowed her to exercise her choice. She then said, 'I am
reconciled to what my father did but I wanted to make it known to
women that fathers have no say in this matter'".
[Ibn Majah]
Narrated Abdullah: "We were with the Prophet, peace be upon him, while
we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Apostle, peace be
upon him, said, `O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should
marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty, and
whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his
sexual power.'"
[Bukhari]
Narrated Abu Huraira: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `A woman
is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her
beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman
[otherwise] you will be a loser.'"
[Bukhari]
Mahr
Mahr is the gift that is given by the husband to his wife at wedding.
It can be anything in any amount, as agreed by the bride and
bride-groom. Allah says about Mahr in the Chapter `Woman' in Quran:
And give the women (on marriage) their Mahr as a free gift ...
Qur'an [4 : 4]
But if you had given the latter a cantar (of gold i.e. a great amount)
for dower (Mahr) take not the least bit of it back ...
Qur'an [4 : 20]
Narrated Sahl bin Sa`d: " A woman came to the Prophet,, and presented
herself to him (for marriage). He said, 'I am not in need of women
these days.' Then a man said, 'O Allah's Apostle! Marry her to me."
The Prophet asked him, 'What have you got?' He said, 'I have got
nothing.' The Prophet said, 'Give her something, even an iron ring.'
He said, 'I have got nothing.' The Prophet asked (him), "How much of
the Quran do you know (by heart)?' He said, 'So much and so much.' The
Prophet said, 'I have married her to you for what you know of the
Quran.' '"
[Bukhari]
Sex
Sex is seen as an act of procreation. An eye for the what is about to
come is kept open in this respect as well. The following prayer
reminds us of God, results of our actions, and reminds us of our
commitment to train our offsprings.
Narrated Ibn Abbas: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `If anyone
of you, when having a sexual intercourse with his wife says:
In the name of Allah! O Allah! Protect me from Satan and protect what
you bestow upon us (i.e. an offspring) from Satan.
and if it is destined that they should have a child, then Satan will
never be able to harm him.'"
[Bukhari]
Walima
Walima is the wedding reception given to friends and family after the
consummation of marriage. It is given by the husband on this
auspicious occassion, showing his happiness and sharing it with the
friends and family.
Narrated Anas: When 'Abdur-Rahman came to us, the Prophet established
a bond of brotherhood between him and Sa'd bin Ar-Rabi'. Once the
Prophet said, "As you (O 'Abdur-Rahman) have married, give a wedding
banquet even if with one sheep." '"
[Bukhari]
Narrated Abu Musa: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `Set the
captives free, accept the invitation (including to a wedding banquet),
and pay a visit to the patients.'"
[Bukhari]
By this saying of the Prophet, peace be upon him, it is also enjoined
upon us to join in the happiness of our brothers.
Duties and Rights of Husband and Wife after marriage
Allah informs us about the just rights of each other on us:
... the wife's rights (with regard to their husbands) are equal to the
(husband's) rights with regard to them, although men are a degree
above them; and Allah is Almighty, Wise.
Qur'an [2 : 228]
The statement that men are a degree above women means that authority
within the household has been give to the husband in preference to the
wife because a heavier burden has been placed on his shoulders by
another verse of the Quran which says:
Men shall take full care of women, because Allah has given the one
more strength than the other, and because they support them from their
means.Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard
in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard ...
Qur'an [4 : 34]
Advice to Husbands
Jabir Narrated that the Prophet, peace be upon him, gave these
instructions in his sermon during Farewell Pilgrimage: "Fear God
regarding women; for you have taken them [in marriage] with the trust
of God."
[Mishkat]
Narrated Aisha, God's messenger said: "Among the believers who show
most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition, and are
kindest to their families."
[Tirmidhi]
Narrated Abu Huraira, God's messenger said: "The believers who show
the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and the
best of you are those who are best to their wives."
[Tirmidhi]
Aisha has related that the Holy Prophet, peace be upon him, would
enter the house with a pleasing disposition and a smile on his lips.
[Uswa-i-Hasana]
Narrated Al-Aswad: "I asked Aisha, `What did the Prophet, peace be
upon him, do at home?' She said, `He used to work for his family and
when he heard the call for the prayer, he would go out.'"
[Bukhari]
Narrated Abu Huraira: "Allah's Apostle, peace be upon him, said, `The
woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break. So
if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some
bent.'"
[Bukhari]
Narrated Abu Huraira: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `Whoever
believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his
neighbor. And I advise you to take care of women, for they are created
from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part;
if you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it
will reamin crooked, so I urge you to take care of women.
[Bukhari]
Narrated Abdullah bin Amr bin Al-As: "Allah's Apostle, peace be upon
him, said, `O Abdullah! Have I not been informed that you fast all the
day and stand in prayer all night?' I said, `Yes, O Allah's Apostle!'
He said, `Do not do that! Observe the fast sometimes and also leave
them at other times; stand up for the prayer at night and also sleep
at night. Your body has a right over you and your eyes have right over
you and your wife has a right over you.'"
[Bukhari]
Narrated Ibn Umar: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `All of you
are guardians and are responsible for your wards. The ruler is a
guardian and the man is a guardian of his family; the lady is a
guardian who is responsible for her husband's house and his offspring;
and so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards.'"
[Bukhari]
Men should forbear any shortcomings of women in view of the following
verse of Quran:
Live with them in kindness; even if you dislike them, perhaps you
dislike something in which God has placed much good.
Qur'an [4 : 19]
Advice to Wives
Anas reported God's messenger as saying, "When a woman observes the
five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and
obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of paradise she
wishes (in other words nothing will prevent her from entering
paradise)."
[Mishkat]
Um Salama reported God's messenger as saying, "Any woman who dies when
her husband is pleased with her will enter Paradise."
[Tirmidhi]
Abu Huraira told that when God's messenger was asked which woman was
best, he replied, "The one who fills [her husband] with joy when he
sees her, obeys him when he directs and does not oppose him by
displeasing him regarding her person or property."
[Mishkat]
Providing for wife and family
Quran teaches us to be reasonable and fair to our wives and family.
House women wherever you reside, accoding to your circumstances, and
do not harass them in order to make life difficult for them ...
Qur'an [65 : 6]
The statement of Allah in the chapter `Woman':
`Men are protectors and maintainers of women ...'
Qur'an [4 : 34]
Bukhari quotes the following verse under the heading: .. the
superiority of providing for one's family:
(O Mohammed!) They ask you what they ought to spend. Say: That which
is beyond your needs. Thus Allah make clear to you His Signs in order
that you may give thought (to it) in this worldly life and the
Hereafter ...
Qur'an [2 : 219-220]
Narrated Abu Masud Al-Ansari: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said,
`When a Muslim spends something on his family intending to receive
Allah's reward, it is regarded as Sadqa (spending in the name of God)
for him.'"
[Bukhari]
We should always remember that Allah is the one who gives us, we are
mere trustees of the funds.
Narrated Abu Huraira: "Allah's Apostle, peace be upon him, said,
`Allah said, O the son of Adam! Spend, and I shall spend on you.'"
[Bukhari]
Narrated Abu Huraira: "Allah's Apostle, peace be upon him, said, `The
best alms is that which you give when you are rich, and you should
support your dependants first.'"
[Bukhari]
Abu Huraira reported God's messenger, peace be upon him, as saying:
"Of the dinar (unit of currency) that you spend as a contribution in
God's path, or to set free a slave, or as charity given to a needy, or
to support your family, the one yielding the greatest reward is that
which you spent on your family.
[Muslim]
Allah, most Gracious says about spouses in Quran:
Among His signs is [the fact] that He has created spouses for you
among yourselves so that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and
He has planted love and mercy between you; In that are signs for
people who reflect.
Qur'an [30 : 21]
and says:
... they are a garment for you and you are a garment to them ...
Qur'an [2 : 187]
Consider this in conjunction with the following verse:
... the best garment is the garment of God-consciousness ...
Qur'an [7 : 26]
It requires that a husband and wife should be as garments for each
other. Just as garments are for protection, comfort, show and
concealment for human beings, Allah expects husbands and wives to be
for one another.
And the believers, men and women, are protecting friends of one
another; they enjoin the right and forbid the wrong, and they
establish worship and they pay the poor-due, and they obey Allah and
His messenger; as for those, Allah will have mercy on them; Lo! Allah
is Mighty, Wise. Allah hath promised to believers - men and women -
gardens underwhich rivers flow, to dwell therein, and beautiful
mansions in gardens of everlasting bliss; but the greatest bliss is
the good pleasure of Allah: This is the supreme felicity.
Qur'an [9 : 71 - 72]
Whom to marry
Allah also gives us freedom and urges us to:
...Marry the women of your choice...
Qur'an [4 : 3]
Similarly, for the women:
"A girl came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and informed him that
her father had married her to her cousin against her wishes, whereupon
the Prophet allowed her to exercise her choice. She then said, 'I am
reconciled to what my father did but I wanted to make it known to
women that fathers have no say in this matter'".
[Ibn Majah]
Narrated Abdullah: "We were with the Prophet, peace be upon him, while
we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Apostle, peace be
upon him, said, `O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should
marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty, and
whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his
sexual power.'"
[Bukhari]
Narrated Abu Huraira: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `A woman
is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her
beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman
[otherwise] you will be a loser.'"
[Bukhari]
Mahr
Mahr is the gift that is given by the husband to his wife at wedding.
It can be anything in any amount, as agreed by the bride and
bride-groom. Allah says about Mahr in the Chapter `Woman' in Quran:
And give the women (on marriage) their Mahr as a free gift ...
Qur'an [4 : 4]
But if you had given the latter a cantar (of gold i.e. a great amount)
for dower (Mahr) take not the least bit of it back ...
Qur'an [4 : 20]
Narrated Sahl bin Sa`d: " A woman came to the Prophet,, and presented
herself to him (for marriage). He said, 'I am not in need of women
these days.' Then a man said, 'O Allah's Apostle! Marry her to me."
The Prophet asked him, 'What have you got?' He said, 'I have got
nothing.' The Prophet said, 'Give her something, even an iron ring.'
He said, 'I have got nothing.' The Prophet asked (him), "How much of
the Quran do you know (by heart)?' He said, 'So much and so much.' The
Prophet said, 'I have married her to you for what you know of the
Quran.' '"
[Bukhari]
Sex
Sex is seen as an act of procreation. An eye for the what is about to
come is kept open in this respect as well. The following prayer
reminds us of God, results of our actions, and reminds us of our
commitment to train our offsprings.
Narrated Ibn Abbas: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `If anyone
of you, when having a sexual intercourse with his wife says:
In the name of Allah! O Allah! Protect me from Satan and protect what
you bestow upon us (i.e. an offspring) from Satan.
and if it is destined that they should have a child, then Satan will
never be able to harm him.'"
[Bukhari]
Walima
Walima is the wedding reception given to friends and family after the
consummation of marriage. It is given by the husband on this
auspicious occassion, showing his happiness and sharing it with the
friends and family.
Narrated Anas: When 'Abdur-Rahman came to us, the Prophet established
a bond of brotherhood between him and Sa'd bin Ar-Rabi'. Once the
Prophet said, "As you (O 'Abdur-Rahman) have married, give a wedding
banquet even if with one sheep." '"
[Bukhari]
Narrated Abu Musa: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `Set the
captives free, accept the invitation (including to a wedding banquet),
and pay a visit to the patients.'"
[Bukhari]
By this saying of the Prophet, peace be upon him, it is also enjoined
upon us to join in the happiness of our brothers.
Duties and Rights of Husband and Wife after marriage
Allah informs us about the just rights of each other on us:
... the wife's rights (with regard to their husbands) are equal to the
(husband's) rights with regard to them, although men are a degree
above them; and Allah is Almighty, Wise.
Qur'an [2 : 228]
The statement that men are a degree above women means that authority
within the household has been give to the husband in preference to the
wife because a heavier burden has been placed on his shoulders by
another verse of the Quran which says:
Men shall take full care of women, because Allah has given the one
more strength than the other, and because they support them from their
means.Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard
in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard ...
Qur'an [4 : 34]
Advice to Husbands
Jabir Narrated that the Prophet, peace be upon him, gave these
instructions in his sermon during Farewell Pilgrimage: "Fear God
regarding women; for you have taken them [in marriage] with the trust
of God."
[Mishkat]
Narrated Aisha, God's messenger said: "Among the believers who show
most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition, and are
kindest to their families."
[Tirmidhi]
Narrated Abu Huraira, God's messenger said: "The believers who show
the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and the
best of you are those who are best to their wives."
[Tirmidhi]
Aisha has related that the Holy Prophet, peace be upon him, would
enter the house with a pleasing disposition and a smile on his lips.
[Uswa-i-Hasana]
Narrated Al-Aswad: "I asked Aisha, `What did the Prophet, peace be
upon him, do at home?' She said, `He used to work for his family and
when he heard the call for the prayer, he would go out.'"
[Bukhari]
Narrated Abu Huraira: "Allah's Apostle, peace be upon him, said, `The
woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break. So
if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some
bent.'"
[Bukhari]
Narrated Abu Huraira: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `Whoever
believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his
neighbor. And I advise you to take care of women, for they are created
from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part;
if you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it
will reamin crooked, so I urge you to take care of women.
[Bukhari]
Narrated Abdullah bin Amr bin Al-As: "Allah's Apostle, peace be upon
him, said, `O Abdullah! Have I not been informed that you fast all the
day and stand in prayer all night?' I said, `Yes, O Allah's Apostle!'
He said, `Do not do that! Observe the fast sometimes and also leave
them at other times; stand up for the prayer at night and also sleep
at night. Your body has a right over you and your eyes have right over
you and your wife has a right over you.'"
[Bukhari]
Narrated Ibn Umar: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `All of you
are guardians and are responsible for your wards. The ruler is a
guardian and the man is a guardian of his family; the lady is a
guardian who is responsible for her husband's house and his offspring;
and so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards.'"
[Bukhari]
Men should forbear any shortcomings of women in view of the following
verse of Quran:
Live with them in kindness; even if you dislike them, perhaps you
dislike something in which God has placed much good.
Qur'an [4 : 19]
Advice to Wives
Anas reported God's messenger as saying, "When a woman observes the
five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and
obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of paradise she
wishes (in other words nothing will prevent her from entering
paradise)."
[Mishkat]
Um Salama reported God's messenger as saying, "Any woman who dies when
her husband is pleased with her will enter Paradise."
[Tirmidhi]
Abu Huraira told that when God's messenger was asked which woman was
best, he replied, "The one who fills [her husband] with joy when he
sees her, obeys him when he directs and does not oppose him by
displeasing him regarding her person or property."
[Mishkat]
Providing for wife and family
Quran teaches us to be reasonable and fair to our wives and family.
House women wherever you reside, accoding to your circumstances, and
do not harass them in order to make life difficult for them ...
Qur'an [65 : 6]
The statement of Allah in the chapter `Woman':
`Men are protectors and maintainers of women ...'
Qur'an [4 : 34]
Bukhari quotes the following verse under the heading: .. the
superiority of providing for one's family:
(O Mohammed!) They ask you what they ought to spend. Say: That which
is beyond your needs. Thus Allah make clear to you His Signs in order
that you may give thought (to it) in this worldly life and the
Hereafter ...
Qur'an [2 : 219-220]
Narrated Abu Masud Al-Ansari: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said,
`When a Muslim spends something on his family intending to receive
Allah's reward, it is regarded as Sadqa (spending in the name of God)
for him.'"
[Bukhari]
We should always remember that Allah is the one who gives us, we are
mere trustees of the funds.
Narrated Abu Huraira: "Allah's Apostle, peace be upon him, said,
`Allah said, O the son of Adam! Spend, and I shall spend on you.'"
[Bukhari]
Narrated Abu Huraira: "Allah's Apostle, peace be upon him, said, `The
best alms is that which you give when you are rich, and you should
support your dependants first.'"
[Bukhari]
Abu Huraira reported God's messenger, peace be upon him, as saying:
"Of the dinar (unit of currency) that you spend as a contribution in
God's path, or to set free a slave, or as charity given to a needy, or
to support your family, the one yielding the greatest reward is that
which you spent on your family.
[Muslim]
Saturday, December 7, 2013
Salam
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